Month: August 2015

What Happens When a Man’s Wheelchair is One Wheel Short?

What Happens When a Man’s Wheelchair is One Wheel Short?

He wobbles and tips over with him in it is what  happens. Then he is stuck in bed for days and day sand days…and the No Non-cents Nanna disapears on-line for awhile.


Can you see what is missing in this photo? It is the back of a 10 year old wheelchair that had been hit by ahis writ taxi over 4 years ago It tipped over with my son in it. copy right Mlaika Bourne see post.

The alert system person responded, but called me FIRST?WHY would me first. I was 30 minutes away.. I could never pick up by myself a 350 pound chair and a 150 pound man- who can’t stand.

Called ME FIRST WHYwould they do that?

I demanded they call 9-1-1 go to his resuce…

Life became more complicated for our household…to type the least.

Since this was his back up chair(just in case his $19,000 18 month old wheelchair did not function-AGAIN!-which it is not safe for him-) I had to call an ambualnce to transport

the parapalegic by stretcher to a crucial monthly infusion. ( Tysabri)

Mannwith MS is transported by stretcher to medical appoint. Why? Becasue his wheelcahir is brokenAGAIN and his back up wheelchair is missling a wheel- and the whellchair company is OK with this? Copy rignt Malika Bourne See post

Here is my son getting his every four week infusion of Tysabri in July just before the right arm broke off. the same chair he is sitting in. That is why he was in the back up wheelchair.

MS patient at Colorado Springs infusion center for MS treament. Please note the left arm rest as shortly after this photo was taken that arm broke off.

We called the local wheelchair company- the company that built the chair and filed a $47,000 bill to the inusurance company.. This is same ew wheelchair I wrote about last year that was always broken

The  whelechair repair man came out 2 weeks later, after ithe left arm broke off- 4 weeks later the compny had sitll not sent the paper work to the doctor

to write an order for repair toget aporval form the insurance company for payment.

Let me tell you, wheelchairs are not cheap for people who depend on them for mobility for tasks of daly living. like parapalegics.Then we all have to figure out how these parts will be paid for.

One size wheelchair does not fit all especiallyy for a man who is 6′ 2″. His  has  to be custom built.

The wheelchair repair man told my son to “Just tie a belt around his chest so he won’t fall out of the chair with the missing arm. A BELT!


My son was now confiend to bed. He had to stay in for 9 days. He has lost  his independence and is now dependant on me for his every need.I have an overload of phone calls to make to deal with these things and more…

…talked to lawyer…talk to insurance…doctor…

Heavy sigh…

..for those who of wiating for me to return phone callls or texts…no,I’ve not read nor commented what you shared on Facebook….so forget it…


I’m too pooped to pop from meetiing priorities of my dependant adult son.

That is what responcible parents do.

I’m Malika Bourne the No Non-cents Nanna making the best choices I can.


I found a new wheelchair comapny out of Denver with a rep we already know and trust who works this area.

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Rules 9 thru 15 to Help Us All Feel Happy and Safe

As your family adjusts to the new normal of staying home from school due to COVID-19 precautions now is a good time to not only talk about house rules that keep everyone safe but, to write them on paper to post for quick reminders.

Why have RULES?

“Rules help us all feel more safe and secure when we know what is expected of us”,  says Malika Bourne the No Non-cents Nanna.


Rules help us all feel more safe and secure when we know what is expected. No Non-cents Nanna

With a new schedule and family routine or new babysitter may be a newly unemployed parent. During this health scare of COVID-19 the new baby sitter might be Dad or the oldest sibling while the other parent is doing essential work on the front lines.

As head of holds, we adults are all feeling unsure of the future and our children will feel our uncertainty. children will react in unpleasant ways to changes of routine and lack of structure that school days have provided.

It is our job as parents or hired caregivers to assure children that we will do everything in our power to keep them safe. with this said, children will need encouragement to also be “helpers” by cooperating with necessary changes to the new normal way of life.

Children need structure. With the new home-school for social distancing the lack of structure they knew at school will be unsettling for any child.

He/ she will need to have rules written out on paper as well.

f you happen to be that new baby sitter, now is the time to make up your rules similar to mine. Keep reading No Non-cents Nanna has to say about discipline and baby sitters.

Rules 9 through 15 are repurposed from one of my archived blogs.

Rules helps every one to feel happy safe. When we write the rules all know what to expect or each other’s behavior. No Non-cents Nanna

Rule #13: Never Eat Yellow Snow

Rules help kids to feel safe. Rule #13 according to No Non-cents Nanna, “Never eat yellow snow.”


Updated 4/1/2020 for COVID-19 New Normal – thank you for your patience as this update is a work in progress to help you adjust to staying home from school


  • Rules are meant to help us focus on making the right choices.
  • Rules do not have to all mean or scary.
  • Adding some absurd things will lighten the mood.

In my original post, I gave silly examples to show if you are the new babysitter you will have rules prepared that you expect to be followed for safety. The kids can focus on the fact that you can still be enjoyable to come to their home to care for them while parents are out.


Rules 9 through 15 are repurposed from one of my archived blogs.


9. Do NOT shrink when taking a bath.

10. Always sit quietly, chewing carefully when eating porcupines with sugar on it.

11. “Please” and “thank you”, the magical words, must be used wisely.

12. “When/then” will be strictly enforced by the babysitter with smiles from all involved,

13. NEVER eat yellow snow. ( If you have a child that claims you have  no rules…ask them about rule #13.)

14. Must help the babysitter sing transition chants. (She can’t carry a tune in a bucket.)

15. Beds are made for sweet dreams. Tell the babysitter 2 happy thoughts before dream time.


When a rule is broken THEN there is a CONSEQUENCE!

  • Have a list of consequences should the RULES of the Babysitter ever be broken.
  • Following the parent’s rules of the house is not ever a choice to not follow.
  • Remember that the babysitter’s job never includes PUNISHMENT.
  • Discipline actually means TO TEACH to inflict pain.
  • Time-out comes with a warning first and is not a punishment.
  • Time-out is simply taking time out to fix the problem before continuing with the game. Apply one minute per year of age.

Consequences of not listening:


Listening to the Mom, Dad, Grandma, older sibling, baby sitter for safety is NOT a choice.

I encourage a baby sitter to firmly state when needed, ” This is NOT a choice. I want you to be safe.” then re-direct to another activity. This is a skill that does take practice.

Examples of silly consequences to lighten the mood.

But, use sparingly. We don’t want to encourage not-listening. These are only examples. Let your children help make up silly rules.

  • Pretend child is 97 1/2 years old when they are in time out. ( A minute per year = 97 minutes. in time out.Yikes. Better to act one’s age.)
  • Go to bed 13 minutes early.
  • Brush your teeth 33 times instead of one.
  • Play the silent games all by yourself for 7 minutes.
  • Listen to the baby sitter sing off-key for 129 minutes.
  • Do 12 jumping jacks.
  • Flex and relax your muscles for 9 minutes.
  • Deep breathe in and out 21 times. ( Deep breathing like La Maz for childbirth really does work for kids to get behavior re-directed..)

Odd numbers and physical tasks appeal to kids.



  • Be sure to adapt your safety rules that are age-appropriate.
  • Keep in mind that you do not want to overstimulate a child before bedtime.
  • Be pleasant and have fun. (Keeps ’em on their mannerly toes. Remember”manners help others  to feel more comfortable around us.”)
  • Consequences should never let a child get out of doing what is safe. Consequences should never be so fun that they encourage breaking the safety rules parents have set…
  • Have little rewards in your babysitting bag. (I have  a post for that, too.)

Please note: Malika Bourne, author of No Non-cents Nanna blogs, is also the founder/ owner of No Non-cents Nanna blog and Heart Felt Play on Facebook.

Dozens of the Best Resources for Kids Busy Bags

Remember WHEN they follow Through THEN they get the reward.

(Example WHEN you get all the little cars in the box THEN I will teach you that silly song to sing or give you a piggyback ride to go brush your teeth)

Starting to Learn Finger Plays with Felt Shapes.

More Good Reasons to Do Finger Plays with Kids


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The Key Smooth Baby Sitting Transitions shared by No Non-cents Nanna

Summer vacation is almost over for school age children. Transitioning from summer time play to getting up for school in the morning may be a challenge in some families.

Whether you are a baby-sitter; older sibling; parent; or teacher No Non-cents Nanna has a secret key that will help you.

The secret key to undesrstanding misbehavio rin chidlren is to hold the key to smooth transitioning from one activity to another. Image copy right 2014 Malika Bourne all rights reserved.

The key is to understand  that transitioning from one activity to another is hard for some kids, but disaterously worse for others.

Yes, you can nip a big problem behavior in the bud while keeping the kids safe when you are in charge.

Remember, when you are in charge you are not the “friend”. But, that does not mean you can’t be pleasant as you expect cooperation.. so, be pleasant!

Children and grown ups alike all appreciate knowing what is expected of them. So, use your words to tell the kids what you expect before you transition to another activity or task.


Baby-sitting Secrets for Smooth Transitions

Baby Sitters, do you want to know the secrets about how to smoothly transition from one activity to another?

Quote from my archived blog:

6 tips to smooth transitions for kids. No Non-cents Nanna guide for baby sitters

  • Many children have a difficult time stopping one activity to go on to the next thing.
  • Transitioning is most often the culprit in misbehavior.
  • Knowing this and how to smoothly stop one thing then go on to another thing is being two steps ahead in the game.
  • Give a five minute warning that things will change.
  • Sing a song or chat.
  • Be prepared to smoothly flow into the next activity by having clothes or books laid out.
  • Be prepared to firmely state, “this is not a choice” when there are no options.

Gives kids a few minutes WARNING of transitioning to the next task.

Below are some ideas of things you, the babysitter, might pleasantly say or chant in a sing-songy way when you give the 5 minute warning of a change.

  • Ding, ding, ding. You have five more minutes to play before clean up time.”
  • “Clean up, clean up. Everybody clean up then I’ll read a bedtime story.”
  • “Way to go, little gizmo. I have three books picked out. Which would you like to have me read to you first?”
  • “This is the last book before you brush you teeth.”
  • “When you finish your bedtime story what do you do? Brush your teeth, brush your teeth, brush your teeth.” Sound like a “choo choo train” in rhythm, saying, “brush your teeth”, on the way to brush your teeth.
  • Would you like to walk like a dinosaur ro waddle like a duck on your way to bed? (Choices help a chidl to feel like they do have some power and control.)
  • Would you like me to rub your back or patt your back?


Begin a new shool year routine before beditme to lay out clothes; pack lunches; back packs; gym shoes etc the night before–and before they lay their heads on the pillow.

A 10 year old may not still want to her good Night Moon as a bed time story. My now grown children loved chapter books and Shel Silverstein  to read.


Have you talked about what relaxing music your child might like to listen to? ( Put the tech stuff away before bed time.)

Have you tired spritzing some lavender on the pillow as a cue to relax  at bed time?

5 phrases for baby sitters to sue to help kids transition to bed. No Non-cents Nanna tips

What other fun ways have you tried successfully with kids while transtitiong from one activity to another?



Rules 9 thru 15 to Help Us All Feel Happy and Safe


No Non-cents Nanna on Making Good Choices

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