What If every child could wish for whatever they want? Would magic be a great idea or not?
Let's explore our value systems in realic life. What is true magic anyway?
"Many parents of today' generation rob their children of childhood by buying them thier own fantasies as they attempt to give devleoping minds "magic" to be loved in return. This is so heartbreaking.
It is normal for us as parents to want to wish our kids to have better than we had when we were young. But, you MUST hold back or you will be withholding the greatest gifts of all.
Please don't be stiffeling a child's own creaativity; a stepping stone to their destiny.
So, my answer is NO. Getting every fantasy wish for would not be a good choice for any one. Never woud eating ice cream day after day be a good thing, either.
Sure, as kids we all cried with at times when our parents said we could not have that one thing we dreamed of.
As a child I wished to Mommy with 100 kids. I sure am glad I got another think on that one.
One of my children dreamed about living at K-Mart_that may be a much smarter Idea than I had at age 3.
But, we all grew stronger in spite of disappointment. Why would I say that when we can buy our kids their dream toys today?" says Malika Bourne the No Non-cents Nanna.
One of my 6 grandchildren painted this picture a few years ago when she was in kindegarten. Is this refrigerator art as valuable as Micheal Angelos' painting in the Cistine Chappel ceiling? Waht child does not believe their painting the is best-er-est any kid EVER did in the whole wide world?
"As valuable?" Ha-ha! I kid you not!
This old No Non-cents Nanna says it is more priceless than any famous art work ever!But lest not over-inflate the ego nor cut them to shreds over their creatiively not being marketable.
Let's keep it real!
"Jane, I see a big yellow sunshine with a smiling face, tell me what you were thinking about when you painted this..."
"Carl, these colorful flowers are really something. Some are bigger and some are smalller and they are different colors. How ever did you choose which one would be big or small or blue even?"
There is no right nor wrong answer when a child answers with their heart- not what we the adults prompt them to say.
I know most grow-ups look at a crappy piece of paper with blobs of paint on it knowing full well that no one would pay $1,000,000 for that 'junk', yet, exclaim "Oh pretty!" (LIAR LIAT pant son Fire!)...
...before YOU throw that materpiece in the trash.
(Not me! I try to keep every one of those creatiionsuntill they become a fire hazard or grape juice gets spilled on it..)
We can dismiss the imagination as garbage...we are too busy working for money to buy the kid what they want...but, all our children really want is for us to appreciate their efforts by taking time to explore the magic of their dreams, not hands over those things with a price tag.
Be quiet to listen what the child says. There will be magic in his/ her words as she uhms and a-a-a-a-h's with inept wording to describe the painting or a pciture on a stick. Let me tell this: your child will always treasure these moments when you listened, really LISTENED to their words even if their ideas are only imaginary.
Well, yeah! Who as a child did not dream of being a fairy tale protagonist or princess?
We can't all live at Disneyland even if you live within walking distance -and we did in the 1970's. I can tell you this: As thrilling as it is to go on the Pirates of the Caribean ride 6 times in a row-just because you always dreamedof it-becomes as boring as making your bed and brushing your teeth everyday!
But every kid will appreciate that dream come true when earn the fantasy vacation after a lot of sweat from hard work of daily chores.
My grandson mowing the lawn build character. I know, he may not be so hot on this idea this year.
I'm not jealous of the wealth that William and Kate's new baby girl will inherit.
I AM a bit concerned that the new little princess will ever be able to experience the real beauty dreaming and hoping and wishing or scheming how to get her royal parents the present EVER just because she loves them!
Here is on of my 6 grandchildren all decked up in cheap plastic beads shestrung herself feeling like a beautiful princess.
There is so much wealth in the true magic in the imagination of a child.
In Disney's version of Cinderella, Ella sings, "A Dream is a Wish Your Heart Makes."
As much as we parents want to protect our kids or the cruel harshness of the world, we should not steal their dreams by fixing everything for them.
When do buy them every fantasy it is kind of like buying them tickets to a Magic Show them revealing all of the tricks of the trade of the Magician illusions.
There is no magic when you know how the illussion is pulled off; Not FUN!
Oh, yeah, I love to make a mess as long as we clean it up. It is all a learning experience and that is 1/2 the magic!
Look at Nanna get a relaxing facial with fruit...
Moving boxes can be a child's fantasy come true!
We made a car from a box.
Read to chidlren when they are small.Then encourage them to make up their own stories.
Not exactly a best selling novel, noraninvitation to dine at the White House...
Encourage kids to explore nature to discover the gifts of the Earth.
Well Bibity Bobbity -BOO! With imagination, a silly hat and decorated empty paper towel roll there is MAGIC! in the air!
I encourage all you families to spend quality time together using creativety and imagination vs buying the kids every thing they wish for.
In life there are no magic wands nor would getting every wished for wish be a good idea.
Imagining the what if I did this or what IF I did that what could happen? (Hopefully not blow the house up.) How far would that imagination cary the child into the future when they figured it out them selves?
I am Malika Bourne the No NOn-cents Nanna saying," Make good choices."
After reading this take a look at your family photos. Do they refective creativity that promotes imagination or spending money?
NO, look at your child. Look deep into their eyes as you listen to their creativity_the magic of their imagination!
When I was a young women, slim trim and confident, I never imagined that my body would one day show the affects of aging.
Now that I am enjoying the ripe old age of 64 I feel and see how a pound or two a year add up when gravity has its way with decreased muscle tone....
...OK, I'm fatter than I ever thought I could be.
I know many a younger folk look down their noses at us older women who never were supposed to look like they were 18 year old all of their life. (Whose loss is that?)
...This is why I love Curves for Women.
Curves accepts us women just the way we are while giving us all the opportunity to work out safely in a friendly environment. We women get Me Time.
Here I am, the No Non-cents Nanna a rained on flabby mess wired for sound with a 3 cardiac monitor I 'll be wearing for 3 weeks sticking out of my shirt.
I have gone to Curves all over the country.
Owner, Amy Dunbar welcomes me with open arms as she does all members, just for me making the effort to walk a .8 miles to walk in the door.
She ever pushes me beyond my safe limits. ( I've been nursing a shoulder injury and irregular heart beat; the reason for the monitor hanging out of my shirt.)
Let's stay realistic; I'm no spring chicken!
I am aware that this old No Non-cents Nanna is persnickety.I let people know when they are doing it wrong so postive changes can be made.
The main stream media is full of all kinds of bad things happening.
With that said, I believe that when people do things right we should shout out the good news over all the rest.
I want the world to know how much I appreciate all that Curves for Women does for us women no matter our size or the shapre we are in.
Big No Non-cents Nanna hugs goes out to Amy Dunbar for all the support you give me as I work my flabby chicken wing old lady arms off at your Curves. (Did I type your name right?)
On May Day this old No Non-cents Nanna and the Man in the Wheelchair got a pleasant surprise as we enjoyed our lunch in Old Colorado City.
Out of blue as we sat in Nan and Pops, a great little sandwhich shop, we were delivered a May Day Basket by delightful children from a class at Mountain Song School in the Colorado Springs.
Isn't this May Day Basket pretty?
Note to the children of Mountain Song School:
Thank you. You made my day!
What blessed my button the most was the random deeds of kindness your teacher promoted as she lead you, an impressively well mannered group of students, around sidewalks of our historical and quaint area of the city.
I want to say Thank you with my big No Non-cents Nanna Hugs to each and every one of you students of life for your kindness. The May Day Basket surprise is worth more to me than Million Dollars to me.
To the teachers and and parents: Your children did you proud!
Keep making those good choices!
From: Malika Bourne the No Non-cents Nanna.
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This old No Non-cents Nanna enjoys the beautiful view at the most any time or any where in Colorado Springs.
Really, who would think going to a doctor's appointment could into a photographic mini-vacation event?
For those of us who live in the Springs or are just visting and love photography you will want to keep you camera by your side to capture once in a life time scenic moments_ and this is well niside the city.
I walk around the city from one bus stop to the next.
I also accompany my son who uses a wheelchair. We enjoy the view where ever the wheelchair can roll,so this post will include a mini-review of places that are wheelchair accessible. What a combo, I know! but for those who need to use a wheelchair and want to vist our city dwon slope of Pikes Peak there is still plenty of natural beauty to enjoy.
These first two images were photographed on North Weber street outside of Vision Institute in Colorado Springs where we see our eye doctors Simons and Davis.
Review: Dr Simon has an amazingly patient way to explain vision problems. Dr Davis is extremly knowledgeable concerning my issues with my eye and eye lid muscles. I appreciate the delicate surgery he preformed on my eye lids a few years ago.
By the way, this office building is wheelchair accessible.
No Non-cents Nanna's youngest grandchild is cute as a bug eating berries, don't you know! (Wearing the berries,too!)
Babies explore their world by putting everything in their mouths. It is a healthy and natural part of growth and development all children need to enjoy...
...so, lighten up, folks. Just hose 'em off at the sink! All kids can be washed up with water a a wash clothe.
Sure it was messy! But let me tell you this babe, now 4 years old, makes healthy eating choices.
Copyright image by Malika Bourne 2011 One BERRY Happy Baby!
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