No Non-cents Nanna

Practical tips and advice for a family friendly lifestyle


Gifts for Young Children: Keep It Simple Silly!

Keep gifts for kids in a healthy balance.

Keep gifts for kids in a healthy balance.

With the holiday gift buying season upon us there is a temptation to buy bigger and better than young children really need.

Malika Bourne the No Non-cents Nanna advises parents and grandparents to KISS!


Sure, all parents have the natural fantasy to give our children more than we had when were grewing up.

Yes, we grandparents want to be the BEST grand parents EVER! READ MORE


Do Not like Your Life? Change It: Rearrange It.

Life is life a box of puzzle pieces.

Life is life a box of puzzle pieces.

At times life can be like a box of puzzle pieces:puzzling!

We have many choices when we are so mixed up the pieces don’t fit right.

  1.  Whine and complain.
  2.  Stay passive or silent.
  3. Blame someone else for the problem
  4. Wait for someone (enabler)to fix it for us
  5. Problem solve to do something different.

In the image below I gave the 2 year old a homemade puzzle made from a piece of card board. She thought it was cool, but did not have a clue as to what she should do with it.

  • She had a knowledge deficit. And, that’s OK because she lacked experience as a two year old.
  • If I, myself, had a knowledge deficit as a new parent or caregiver I might have been judgmental and have gotten upset with her for being”lazy or stupid”. Now that would not ever be appropriate.  But, some ill-informed adult do react poorly thus needing some guidance.
  • I could slap her around for not putting the puzzle together. I would NOT do that, either. From  experience I know two year old kids have to be taught from good examples over time.

Unfortunately many adults have their own knowledge-deficits about realistic expectations for children. READ MORE