A Dozen Tips to Help Families Working As a Team During Pandemic of 2020

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The year 2020 is full of uncertainty for everyone around the world. There is a lot to process and filter as we adjust to the new normal during the COVID-19 pandemic. This post will give some parenting support along with some links to valuable information specific to COVID-19 signs and symptoms unique to children such as rashes.

Being a parent under “normal circumstance” (whatever that means) is a job no one is ever fully prepared for. Even with consistent hard work, honestly, there will not always be a perfect solution as far as everyone is concerned. What will go wrong will go wrong? We all will face challenges when we least expect it. So, hope for the best and have a plan for the worst. Sure have faith in God, but lock the barn door before the horse gets out.

Do the best you can with what you have available to work with including reading up on the FACTS of this novel virus and other parenting concerns from the most reliable resources you can find.

Here is good link that explains What is COVID-19 pandemic?


That’s me, Malika Bourne recovering from ARDS in 2018 before COVID-19 pandemic…By this time in ICU I had pink color back without the dark blue color from lack of O2.

Disclaimer: No Non-cents Nanna’s blog is not a substitute for medical advice. I have attempted to pull together reliable information to get YOu thinking on your own. I have done so in good faith.

Tips to help Your family work as a team during the pandemic of 2020

#1 Family is a Team

Our jobs as parents and grandparents are to communicate to our children that we will do our very best to always keep them safe. Collectively, we all need each other to work together as a team with Mom or Dad as the adult in charge who helps make rules for safety.. (Foster parent, house parent, guardian, aunt, uncle, step-parent etc. I don’t want to leave out any significant person caring for a child..).

#2 Rules

Rules that are fair and reasonable may or may not be to everyone’s liking. During this time pandemic, it is even more important each family member can work together as a team. Just like a sports team we have to know the rules of the game. Keep in mind that with the team’s coach has to rearrange team members or play strategies he/ she calls “time-out” to re-group.

Here is my No Non-cents Nanna’s definition of RULES.

Rules are made to help eveyone feel more safe and secure because we know what is expected of each of us.

Malika Bourne the No Non-cents Nanna


#3 Consistency in Routines

  1.  Be a good role model every day with your own good handwashing. Washing hands appropriately is NOT a choice.
  2. Make healthy food choices for meals at regular times of the day. (Sure, allow some indiscretions of treats for special moments -just because.)
  3. Get plenty of exercise in the outdoors running around and breathing in the good old fashioned fresh air.
  4. Stay connected with friends and family by phone; Facetime: Zoom and even old fashioned cards and letters.
  5. Keep up school work-study and reading routines with breaks. Grown-ups can be a role model by relaxing with a good book, too.
  6. Keep up bedtime rituals or even start some new fun bedtimes routines.
  7. Make Memories! Have fun playing games, telling stories, doing a craft; learning new skills, be silly.; cuddle…
  8. Set aside a time every day to evaluate signs of stress in family members and yourself. You don’t need to be sneaky-simply ask, “How are you feeling today?” Then listen to what is said and how it is said.
  9. Be watchful of signs and symptoms of illness. Be well informed and relaxed around your children when talking about potentially catching a communicable disease. Your fears and attitude will rub off on your children.
  10. Roleplay community helpers.
  11. Have a plan in place in the event a family member gets ill. (See quote and clickable link below.)

Not all children and teens respond to stress in the same way. Some common changes to watch for include:

  • Excessive worry or sadness
  • Unhealthy eating habits
  • Unhealthy sleeping habits
  • Difficulty with attention and concentration


Why are we wearing masks when we get to go out?

This is a conversation I hope you have had with your children already at their age level.

The talk about COVID-19 can be as simple as, “We are learning about the virus. Until doctors and nurses know more wearing a mask can help us all from passing the virus back and forth from accidentally spitting when we talk, cough, sneeze if we don’t cough into our elbows quick enough.”

What scientists and doctors know about how COVID -19 seems to be transmitted from one person to another is that the virus is mainly spread from close contact with an infected person respiratory droplets that we probably don’t see. We can breathe in those droplets or they can land in our eyes.

For now, we have to assume that everybody is a silent carrier of this novel coronavirus. Realistically, that is probably not currently a fact. This virus does not just pop up out of thin air. It has to be carried from person to person who is in a contagious stage.

We all should be capable of using critical thinking skills that will help us process the steps of mitigation in order to demonstrate making good choices to our children. Your attitude will affect your child’s.cooperation.

Focus on making good preventive choices rather than living in fear. The more you know the easier it is to mitigate to slow the spread.

Please read the quote snippets below and click on the link to get all of the information.

How Exactly Do You Catch Covid-19? There Is a Growing Consensus

Surface contamination and fleeting encounters are less of a worry than close-up, person-to-person interactions for extended periods

… activities like speaking and breathing produce respiratory bits of varying sizes that can disperse along air currents and potentially infect people nearby.

… respiratory-droplet contact as the major mode of Covid-19 transmission. … large fluid droplets can transfer virus from one person to another if they land on the eyes, nose or mouth. But they tend to fall to the ground or on other surfaces pretty quickly.

… can also be transmitted through aerosols, or minuscule droplets that float in the air longer than large droplets. These aerosols can be directly inhaled.

…Proper ventilation— forcing air toward the ceiling and pumping it outside, or bringing fresh air into a room—dilutes the amount of virus in a space, lowering the risk of infection.

… prolonged exposure…. 15 minutes or more of unprotected contact with someone less than 6 feet away…(If they are infected.)

.. singing… can emit many large and small respiratory particles. Singers breathe deeply, increasing the chance they will inhale infectious particles. (Super spreaders)

…where heavy breathing and loud talking are common over extended periods, like gyms, musical or theater performances, conferences, weddings and birthday parties… (super spreaders)

…crowded events, homes and other spaces where lots of people are in close, prolonged contact.

“the risk of a given infected person transmitting to people is pretty low,” — estimated 10% of people with Covid-19 are responsible for about 80% of transmissions…

“For every superspreading event you have a lot of times when nobody gets infected.”

Some policies are changing

… for someone who tests positive is to quarantine at home.

Some cities are providing free temporary housing and social services where people who are infected can stay on a voluntary basis, to avoid transmitting the virus to family members.

… keep wearing masks and maintaining a distance from others as states reopen.

… returing to work include requiring masks, limiting use of public transit and elevators to reduce exposure, and prohibiting hugs, handshakes and fist-bumps…

Current CDC workplace guidelines don’t talk about distribution of aerosols, or small particles, in a room…“Aerosol transmission is a scary thing… an exposure that’s hard to manage and it’s invisible.”

while aerosol transmission does occur, it doesn’t explain most infections… the virus doesn’t appear to spread widely through the air.

“If this were transmitted mainly like measles or tuberculosis, where infectious virus lingered in the airspace for a long time, or spread across large airspaces or through air-handling systems, I think you would be seeing a lot more people infected,” said the CDC’s Dr. Brooks.

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The quote below in an extremely important message parents need to understand without creating fear in your children.

I am learning that better word with this virus may be pre-symptomatic.

I’m a Doctor and Here’s How to Never Catch COVID-19



#12 Have an emergency plan in place. Hope for the best and plan for the worst. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has information on how to prepare your home and family for COVID-19. Recommendations include:


  • Clean and disinfect high-touch surfaces daily in household common areas (e.g. tables, hard-backed chairs, doorknobs, light switches, remotes, handles, desks, toilets, sinks)
  • Have supplies on hand
    • Contact your healthcare provider to ask about obtaining extra necessary medications to have on hand…
    • If you cannot get extra medications, consider using mail-order for medications
    • … over-the-counter medicines and medical supplies (tissues, etc.) to treat fever and other symptoms.
    •  household items and groceries on hand
  • If possible, choose a room in your house that can be used to separate sick household members from others. If someone in the household is sick, separate them into the prepared room
  • If caring for a household member, follow recommended precautions and monitor your own health

If you are the family member or caregiver of someone at higher risk, you should:

  • Know what medications your loved one is taking
  • Monitor food and other medical supplies (oxygen, incontinence, dialysis, wound care) needed and create a back-up plan
  • Stock up on non-perishable food items – minimize trips to stores



A criticism I have about how this pandemic has been handled does not all fall on the governmental agencies.

  • I am disappointed in the mainstream news sources, to say the least. It is often biased. Therefore I recommend reading multiple sources that are known to be credible or quote form reliable sources.
  • But, what is worse I have found is the social media frenzy to be the first one to WARN our following of “lies, hoaxes and secret cures and conspiracies the government does not want you to know.”
  • Remember emotion and urgency sells a product by getting your attention and reaction to click and read. Many blogs, web sites, videos make money from the ads they pop up on their sites. Every time you click som one makes money. (Please note No NoN-cents Nanna is not monetized. This blog does cost me to keep going for which I earn no compensation other than the joy of writing.

If I could advise the CDC, the governors, Dr. Fauci, the News Producers I would say this:

  • Get better control of the information you release to the news reporters- insist that they know more than they do about the subject before they write a national headline- be more responsible
  • I would like to see the Experts give information on the level that the old fashioned newspapers printed- 5-th grade level. Make the recommendation to the point- What do you want the citizens of the US to do?
  • Cut out the reporting where some people in charge, Mr. President, are thinking out loud without a filter, I think the news needs to show more respect to the office of the President by not setting him up with asinine questions to mock him that only confuse the public more than we are.IMO
  • Give us clear and concise directions and consequences according to the facts as you know it at that time.
  • When updating or correcting theories on this novel virus, please tell Americans that you have discovered something different and there must be a change ‘from this date to this date’.
  • .Present us with more than numbers. Human beings are not numbers that people can relate to.
  • Present America with the *cost of getting seriously ill with COVID-19 in terms that real people can related to instead of fueling the fire for anti-mask cults and hoax conspiracies. whoa re protecting on views before they get banned.

*By COST of getting seriously ill with Covid-19 I wish people understand the toll it takes on the survivor’s and their family’s lives. Stages of grieve a family goes through when losing a loved one or planning funeral they can’t have right now. Who will pay the bills? How long is the road to recovery or will the survivors ever get back on their feet? Who will raise the children? ( See quotes below *)

CDC suggests Ways to support your child

  • Talk with your child about the COVID-19 outbreak.
  • Answer questions and share facts about COVID-19 in a way that your child can understand.
  • Reassure your child that they are safe. Let them know it is ok if they feel upset. Share with them how you deal with your own stress so that they can learn how to cope from you.
  • Limit your family’s exposure to news coverage of the event, including social media. Children may misinterpret what they hear and can be frightened about something they do not understand.
  • Try to keep up with regular routines. If schools are closed, create a schedule for learning activities and relaxing or fun activities.
  • Be a role model. Take breaks, get plenty of sleep, exercise, and eat well. Connect with your friends and family members.
  • Spending time with your child in meaningful activities, reading together, exercising, playing board games.


Any of us who have raised or worked with children know kids can get weird rashes from too much heat; rolling in the grass, eating something they are allergic to… the list can be pretty long.

Click HERE to read 11 Causes of Childrens’ Rashes 


I think our first inclination is to treat with Granny’s home cure tonic with something like a baking soda bath for an itchy rash.

Oh, and my all-time favorite, while I am thinking, is a cold wash clothe. Those cold wash clothes help children feel like we are doing something while we are trying to calmy and rationally figure out what we need to do. Your job is to stay level headed- don’t panic about a rash- focus on being supportive to your child. Enlist your child’s cooperation assuring them that you will help them by asking the doctor and nurses for help.

(In the event of any illness and injury you will be grateful to have roleplayed doctor and nurse helpers with your child.)

On the topic of rashes, COVID-19 seems to be giving children and young adults rashes. Here is the thing that had concerned me in the early days of COVID-19 this year- people were being turned away who had COVID-19, but the signs and symptoms at that time did NOT fit the criteria. No one knew all the answers.

( I know, confusing- that is what happens when the world beings to deal with an unknown “novel” virus. A highly contagious disease that no one has treated before…)


I will also post a few more links about childhood diseases that had pretty much been irradiated. But, now because of the pandemic, there is a grave concern that school-age children will be behind on their immunizations. We could very well have more than one epidemic in communities this coming fall and winter. I say this an old RN not as “fear-monger”. Trust me, please, when I say that Measles, Mumps, Rubella, Chicken Pox are nothing to sneeze at.

Disclosure: Malika Bourne the No Non-cents Nanna supports the immunization of children. I also believe in making informed choices. For those who favor anti-vaccines or anti-maks wearing, please do yourself a favor. by reading both sides pro and con immunizations.

I have talked to many mothers who are anti-vac only to discover that they did not have all the missing pieces in this puzzlement. Besides getting more informed on the opposite of your belief could very well reinforce your argument pro or con. I know that you can make your won good choice when fully informed with facts rather than opinions.

Please read the short quote directly below then click on HERE or the link in the quote. So far not too many children have been infected seriously with COVID-19. I hope we can protect every child from exposure until they can get a vaccine that will work.

Warning! These photos are not comfortable to look at. When the website appears you will see images of rashes like you may have never seen before. Since I had most of the “Not so child-like childhood diseases” when I look at these skin conditions my nerve memory hurts.

…the skin can be affected by SARS-COV-2 (the virus that causes COVID-19) in up to 20% of cases. The virus triggers a number of immune reactions so it is no surprise that the skin is involved.

… COVID can cause a wide variety of skin signs and symptoms, which is why there has been a delay in recognising that these various skin rashes were linked to the virus.

… three main types of skin rashes associated with COVID: urticaria (hives), erythemato-papular rash (described as a red bumpy rash) or erythemato-vesicular rash (described as chicken pox-like rash), and chilblains.



MMR Vaccine (Measles, Mumps, and Rubella): What You Need to Know

Why get vaccinated?

MMR vaccine can prevent measlesmumps, and rubella. 

  • MEASLES (M) can cause fever, cough, runny nose, and red, watery eyes, commonly followed by a rash that covers the whole body. It can lead to seizures (often associated with fever), ear infections, diarrhea, and pneumonia. Rarely, measles can cause brain damage or death.
  • MUMPS (M) can cause fever, headache, muscle aches, tiredness, loss of appetite, and swollen and tender salivary glands under the ears. It can lead to deafness, swelling of the brain and/or spinal cord covering, painful swelling of the testicles or ovaries, and, very rarely, death.
  • RUBELLA (R) can cause fever, sore throat, rash, headache, and eye irritation. It can cause arthritis in up to half of teenage and adult women. If a woman gets rubella while she is pregnant, she could have a miscarriage or her baby could be born with serious birth defects.

Most people who are vaccinated with MMR will be protected for life. Vaccines and high rates of vaccination have made these diseases much less common in the United States.

In some cases, your health care provider may decide to postpone MMR vaccination to a future visit.

People with minor illnesses, such as a cold, may be vaccinated. People who are moderately or severely ill should usually wait until they recover before getting MMR vaccine.

Your health care provider can give you more information.

Click to read CDC’s full page: I copy and pasted for your convience. as an educational resource.



2. How can you determine the measles? The symptoms will appear within two weeks after you’ve caught the virus. You can have


red eyes with sensitivity to the light;

aches in the muscles;

a sore throat and runny nose;

white spots on the tongue and inside of the mouth.

As a rule, the first symptom to be noticed is a widespread skin rash. It appears within the first days (from three to five) after the infection and in general can stay for about a week. Usually, the rash appears on the head and proceeds to the rest of the body. Itching red bumps are also the signs of the measles.

Click HERE for more discussion on measles. http://bestmedicinebook.info/measles-rubeola-symptoms-causes-complications-more/

For a refresher on Measles, Mumps and Rubella here is a brief overview form WebMD. There is clickable links in the Quote. Be sure to go to Web MD to educate your self so you can better care for your child just in case they become infected with an unfamiliar rash.

Disclaimer: Not intended as medical advice. This blog is intended to encourage parents to be well informed on communicable diseases. As always consult your own family doctor for licensed medical care. treatment and diagnosis when you suspect a communicable disease.

What Are Measles, Mumps, and Rubella?

Measlesmumps, and rubella are viral diseases. All can be very serious.

Measles starts as a fever, coughrunny noseconjunctivitis (pinkeye), and a red, pinpoint rash that starts on the face and spreads to the rest of the body. If the virus infects the lungs, it can cause pneumonia. Measles in older children can lead to inflammation of the brain, called encephalitis, which can cause seizures and brain damage.

The mumps virus usually causes swelling in glands just below the ears, giving the appearance of chipmunk cheeks. Before the vaccine, mumps was the most common cause of both meningitis (inflammation of the lining of the brain and spinal cord) and acquired deafness in the U.S. In men, mumps can infect the testicles, which can lead to infertility.

Rubella is also known as German measles. It can cause a mild rash on the face, swelling of glands behind the ears, and in some cases, swelling of the small joints and low-grade fever. Most children recover quickly with no lasting effects. But if a pregnant woman gets rubella, it can be devastating. If she’s infected during the first trimester of pregnancy, there’s at least a 20% chance her child will have a birth defect such as blindness, deafness, a heart defect, or intellectual disabilities.

Web MD has a lot more good information thta is easy to understand, including Who Should NOT get the vaccines; signs and symptoms.

Click HERE for good informaiton you can use. https://www.webmd.com/children/vaccines/measles-mumps-and-rubella-mmr-vaccine#1

Remember to do Self-care Mom and Dad

Mom and Dad, I want to le you know that 2020 is incredibly stressful. No one has all of the answers, yet, there are bills to pay, children to feed and keep a roof over their heads…I don’t need to list everything for you that you are already feeling overwhelmed about.

What you may be feeling, right now, is actually pretty “normal” for the situation. In the long run, you will do your child no good IF you don’t care for yourself, first.

  • It is OK to want to not cry in front of the kids.
  • It is OK to say to them that you need some time alone to think about grow -up things.
  • Avoid self-medicating without your doctor’s advice. Take prescriptions as directed. Avoid alcohol and street drugs. Your children really need you to be alert and functioning. Call for help for addiction even IF you don’t think anyone knows about the bottles you have hidden. they KNOW something is not right.
  • Assure the children that you are going to do your very best you can and you need their help by cooperating. It is NOT your child’s job to “fix” life for you. So, demonstrate that YOU know how to ask for help when you need help. Your child can always come to you to ask for help as well.
  • It is OK to answer, “I don’t know”. This old No Non-cents Nanna can and will say, “I don’t know all the answers either. But, I do know how to find some workable way to start. I do so by sharing what I believe are credible links to the experts who BTW do not have all the answers, either, unfortunately, but are working hard to find the answers. Let’s cut them some slack.


50 Simple Ways To Care For Yourself During The Pandemic

Note: There are actually only 47 ideas. The author asks you to think of 3 more idea for self care on your own…. is for you to post the question, “What is one thing you’re doing to care for yourself now?,” on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter or Instagram. It’s a great way to find out how the people you care about are spending their time.



Take care of your mental health

You may experience increased stress during this pandemic. Fear and anxiety can be overwhelming and cause strong emotions.

Get immediate help in a crisis

Find a health care provider or treatment for substance use disorder and mental health



What Can Families Who are Staying Home Do Without Hand Sanitizer?

On Chosing Miracle Cures: Fact, Falacy, Rumors or False Promises?



*The cost of having COVID-19

This section is still a work in progress. This is more serious than what you may be ready to tackle. that’s OK, bookmark it then come back to consider reading and click when you are ready and the children are tucked safely in bed.

I will from time to time ad to this heartwrenching subject that many Americans were not prepared to face. Hopefully, the early attempts at mitigation bought our families precious time.

I hope you gained some personal insight from this post.

This is the No Non-cents Nanna encouraging you to, “make informed good choices”

An ICU doctor explains what happens when you’re put on a ventilator with the coronavirus

…doctors are trained to have frank conversations with ICU patients and their families about their options. The ventilator is always a last resort.

“What we say ahead of time is, ‘We’re going to try to get you through this without a ventilator. But if it looks like you are going to potentially die without one, would you want to go on a breathing machine? We don’t know whether you’ll be a person who makes it through with the machine or one who doesn’t,'” Boer said.

‘It’s almost like you’re drowning’

Some people have the wrong impression of what ventilators do, he added. “The ventilator is not fixing your lungs. You’re buying time. Your body needs time to recover and heal.”..

…typically three people in the room with the patient — an anesthesiologist or intensivist who performs the intubation, a respiratory therapist, and a bedside nurse to manage medications.

Patients can gag during intubation and spray the coronavirus, so staff wear the maximum amount of personal protective equipment — including face masks, shields, gloves, and gowns — to limit exposure.

What it’s like as a patient to be on a ventilator

End of Life Discussions

…ICU doctors always should try to be honest about the prognosis. If a patient needs an increasing amount of support from a ventilator, it’s time to begin end-of-life discussions.

Please click HERE to read what the The Insider reported https://www.insider.com/what-its-like-to-be-on-a-ventilator-with-coronavirus-2020-4


26 May 2020
Medical nutrition and COVID-19 patient recovery
Medical nutrition can positively contribute to clinical outcomes and quality of life for patients with a variety of
conditions and diseases. Nevertheless, medical nutrition is not always a recognized and integral part of patient
care and recovery – indeed, today only 1 out of 3 patients receive the nutritional care that they need1
. https://www.nutricia.com/content/dam/nutricia/global/press-center/pressrelease27may2020/Media_Fact_Sheet_Medical_Nutrition_COVID19_FINAL_V26052020.pdf


By F. Diane Barth, psychotherapist

At this point, it’s hard to imagine that anyone could really ignore the danger of the coronavirus or imagine that they are somehow immune to it. And yet that is exactly what happened and is happening across the United States, as people still hold coronavirus parties, head out to packed beaches and parks, and tell themselves and their families that it simply won’t happen to them.



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